In my next few blogs, I will talk about my favourite women in Islam and why.
Sayeda Khadija (may ALLAH be pleased with her) for me has to be my favourite. Imagine how strong she was?
1) She was married to a man 15 years younger than herself. Age is such a big issue in our society. I am not really sure if it was back then, but if a woman marries a man 15 years younger than her, she is strong because most women are quite snobbish when it comes to age. I find this attitude quite alarming because if a man is a good man, and he is decent and can offer you what you want spiritually and mentally then why reject? She saw Prophet Mohamed (PBUH) as a good, decent, honest man and she made a life with him. Also he was not phased that she was 15 years older than him. I think this is a lesson we should all really take into our hearts.
2) When he came to her with the revelations and told her what he had seen and heard, she stood by her man. She didn't laugh at him. She didn't tell him he was crazy. She didn't run away from him, she stood by him and what he was saying. In today's society, how many women would actually do that if their husband came home and told her something that was totally unrealistic? Lets face it, it would have been unrealistic for her to believe at that time because there was nothing like that that had happened before in her life time at least. She didn't do any of those things those. She stood by her man and she respected him and she was the first one to convert. Not only does that show the great love she had for him but also a great respect and understanding. How many of us truly respect our husbands and understand them. Even if something is really hard to understand, how many of us try?
3) She helped the Prophet (PBUH) when everyone was against him. She gave everything to him, her love and affection, her wealth to help him succeed as well as the religion.
4) She was happy to sacrifice. When he was pushed out of his home with his family, she gave it all up for him. She was happy to give up her comfort for him. When our husbands struggle with something and sometimes we have to make a sacrifice in order for him to manage, how many of us are doing this willingly? How many of us complain at having to make such a sacrifice? But if we look at Sayeda Khadija and what she did for our Prophet (PBUH), not only should we be in awe, but we should also follow her example.
5) She raised his children exceptionally well. Fatma is second behind her mother as one of the four greatest women of the universe. She will be the leader of the women in Paradise. Her mother is the "mother of all believers".
Khadija was an exceptionally strong, caring, loyal and loving woman. Prophet Mohamed nursed her when she was sick and told her she will be the most honoured woman in Paradise. He missed her very much when she passed. In his years of married to Khadija, he never married another woman. He adored her and she him. She is the perfect example of how we should behave towards our husbands.
We should love them, respect them, understand them and be devoted to them. This does not mean we are their slaves. It means we are their wife and are looking after his needs as a man but both needs as a couple. We must all try to understand and respect our husbands that little bit more than we do so now. We may not always see eye to eye with them but we must show them that we love them dearly, that we are prepared to sacrifice for them and that we will stand by them no matter what. We must look to Sayeda Khadija as our role model in how to be the perfect wife.
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